Since the release of 50 shades of grey, the sex world has seemingly gone mad for BDSM. Suddenly every second person has a sub/dom preference, fetish clubs have gone mainstream and apparently getting rope and cable ties in B&Q is somewhat of a mission.
Now although many of us may flirt with the idea of dabbling in a bit of S&M to spice up our sex lives (well if it’s good enough for Rihanna…) we’re not sure how we feel about hanging from the ceiling with a ball gag in our mouth…Although our xxXpanded.com cam girl Sarah says this can be exciting too!
So is there a happy medium? We spoke with our adult webcam girl Sarah and together we put together a few of our kinky bedroom suggestions that will satisfy your curiosity without pushing you too far outside of your comfort zone as well as some that will!
Bondage and Rope Play
Tying someone up/being tied up riles up feelings of excitement and exhilaration. Bondage is the art of being tied up and was originally used by Japanese Samurai to restrain their enemies! In the 1950s bondage hit the mainstream in Japan thanks to raunchy photos in adult magazines, and later it hit the Western BDSM scene and is now one of its most popular aspects!
You may want to go all out with rope and cable ties which you can pick up from a local B&Q if they aren’t sold out, but if this feels a little extreme to you instead of leaving that sexy new lingerie set discarded on the floor, why not put it to good use and tie your partners hands behind his back with your bra or pull him closer to you with a single silky soft stocking.
Blindfold
The fear of the unknown can be scary but it can be very exciting! When one of your senses is inactive, the others tend to be heightened. This is why blindfolding your partner while softly touching parts of their body can be so erotic!
Making sure to avoid touching the places they most want you to (for now), run your fingers up and down their body to kick start some serious anticipation build up and arousal…
Editors note: Adult phone chat babe Sarah is getting excited right now just thinking about this so call her now.
Feathers
There’s nothing like a soft, tickly sensation to put your senses into overdrive; there’s a reason why tickling of the skin causes an eruption of goose bumps and hairs to stand up on end – nerve endings just below the naked skin surface will be activated.
Use a feather to slowly run up and down your partners’ body – this works especially well if they are blindfolded – and watch as they squirm with pleasure.
Live video girl Sarah has let us know that the most sensitive areas are his inner thighs and just below his abdomen (as close to his member as you can get without touching it).
Blow Hot and Cold
The sensations of hot and cold sometimes known in the BDSM world as fire and ice are enough to send anyone over the edge; utilise this fact by bringing some heating and cooling extremities into the bedroom.
Ice and a cup of warm water are a quick and easy way to ease yourself into the trend; simply take some ice in your mouth and run your tongue around his nipples, then swirl the warm water around in your mouth to warm it up and again take his nipples into your mouth. The change in temperature will bring on sensations of extreme pleasure!
Once you’re well practiced with nipples you could even take this technique to, ahem, lower realms…
Take over Control
Now it’s not often women are happy to do as they’re told, so this one holds a novelty that is simple yet mind-blowingly effective – tell your man he can take complete control.
Letting him know he can tell you to do whatever he wants is a sexy thrill for you both – It’s also a great way to find out exactly what turns your partner on. Be sure to mix roles so you both get a chance to go on a power trip and be sure to have a safe word to break up the action if things are going a little too far for you!
Handcuffs
Handcuffs ‘50 Shades style’ may well involve suspension from a great height – but it doesn’t have to be this way! Use handcuffs (fluffy ones tend to be easier on the skin and are available in most adult stores such as Ann Summers) to cuff your man to the bed so his hands are out of action, then give him oral and watch his body convulse with pleasure as he surrenders complete control. When you feel he is about to cum, stop and tease him making him desperate but helpless at the same time!
Sex Alfresco
Sex in a public place is taboo and hence super arousing; grab your partner when you’re out and about for a quick romp. The thrill of being outside and doing something you shouldn’t be doing is a guaranteed aphrodisiac. If you desire a larger audience our cam babe Sarah says fetish clubs such as Torture Garden, or swingers clubs such as Killing Kittens are great places to attract an audience. Alternatively one can visit one of the many saunas in the UK, which allow adult fun such as Rio’s in London’s Kentish Town.
Let Him Watch
Letting your partner watch you pleasure yourself is the hottest thing you can do for him – and it has added benefits for you, too; chances are he’ll learn something about what you like and how you like it…
Voyeurism has been near the top of the males’ fantasy list for some time now, and witnessing his arousal from watching you will give you a great sense of sexual power and prowess.
If you feel a little awkward staring him straight in the eyes then just lie back, close your eyes and get lost in your own pleasure! Alternatively if you are feeling in an extra kinky mood and have a very open minded partner consider tying your partner to a chair and then bringing in another girl so he can watch you. Our sex chat girl Sarah says this has made many men crazy with excitement as she has enjoyed doing it many times.
Hopefully you will enjoy these scenarios with your partner or if you want to talk to our live phone chat girls about their experiences call them now.
